How to use the Conversation Cards

When someone uses power or control to make you do things. Power is built up by being negative and mean, and making people believe that they are no good.

Agreeing to do something because you feel like you should, or like you have to even though you don’t want to.

Sexual consent is when people agree to sexual activity. It must be given freely with shared understanding of what is going to happen. Consent is only present when people want to do the sexual activities and they make sure their partner does too.

To understand and share how someone else is feeling.

All people can do the same things as everyone else and are treated the same.

Abuse where one person makes another person doubt themselves, like telling someone something didn’t happen when it did. This can lead to a person questioning their sanity, memories, or reality.

A term used to refer to the characteristics that people associate with being a man, woman, girl, boy. Gender should not be assumed as it can be different to how people look.

Terms used to identify a person’s gender. There are lots of pronouns, such as she/her, they/them, he/him, or a mixture like she/them or he/her.

A person tricks someone into trusting them so they can make them do things even if it does not feel good or safe.

Something that is against the law or is a crime. People who do something that is against the law may have to pay money or go to jail as punishment.

Sharing personal and private acts with another person, such as sex, cuddles, kissing or expressing love or feelings for a person. Intimacy can make you feel connected to someone. It can be emotional and does not always mean touching.

Sending, getting or taking photos of your own or someone else’s body without clothes.

When a person forces someone to have sex without consent.

Listening to what other people need, and not being rude about other people’s feelings, wishes, and rights.

A person uses a part of their body on another person’s genitals. It can be a penis in a vagina, a penis in an anus, the mouth used on genitals, or rubbing genitals together, or using hands on another person’s genitals.

Sometimes the word sex is used to label boys or girls, men or women. Or what genitals people were born with. Sex doesn’t always match gender. Gender is what a person feels like.